<p>1. Depends how you are using the term. If you are describing something as gay (and lets be honest some things are, doesnt mean anything bad, just gay) then its okay, but if you are repeatedly useing the word to offensive or just calling someone it after, then it should be done in very small moderation if any. Saying it offensivly should not be done, but calling someone gay should be done only if okay but the person being called.
</p><p>2. Jokes are okay (and some funny) as long as they arent offensive. They should be allowed all the time but if someone is offended by one, then the person who said it should stop.
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